So much has happened in the world affecting each of our lives at home. A lot of fear, frustrations, anger and worry has swept through us all. With each passing day, week and month I feel like we are all just waiting for the other shoe to drop. With each problem humanity has not disappointed. All of this has brought many of us together to fight for what is right, to spread compassion and a helping hand to those who are sick or in a financial crisis.
I can probably share multiple blog posts about my opinion on all that is going on in the world but I don’t write to rant and throw my two cents around. I write these to help you reach clarity and jump start yourself towards positive change.
Since there are a lot of people (I was in the same boat) who feel hopeless, confused and dissapointed I put together 9 tips that have helped me become more self aware. There is no reason to beat around the bush–there are many nasty, ignorant people in the world. To pretend there isn’t is naive thinking. There are people who want to do harm, who carry a lot of hate and anger, which leads to poor decision making. There is an endless list on why people do bad things, was it their environment, circumstances ,the way they were raised or trauma they experienced. For every bad decision made there is an abundance of good ones. We are all so much stronger than we think. In the moment we feel like we might break and not make it through but we do not break easily. Our souls are strong. The hope and faith we carry can last through any pain, especially when we all come together.
If we all learn and help teach others self awareness, then we will all be changing the world into a safer, kinder place.
Let’s get to it!
Tip 1: Before speaking, PAUSE & THINK. So often we are quick to respond. We don’t stop long enough to think about what we say and how it will be perceived. We might think it sounds one way in our minds only to come out totally wrong to the listener. Words have more power than we think. It’s important to think it through.
Tip 2: Listen to others. Put away distractions and look the person in the eyes. Instead of thinking of what you are going to respond with, listen with intent. Focus on what they are really saying and if you have to repeat their words in your own mind. This will help you truly grasp at what they are telling you.
Tip 3: Practice patience. Instead of waiting for a difficult situation to practice it is best to incorporate a healthy and enjoyable way to strengthen this. Patience is a skill you can develop and all you have to do is practice. A great way I do this is by picking a hobby that forces me to wait. For instance, I just took up gardening. Let me tell you there is nothing like waiting for your plants to grow to teach you some patience. Once you see the first sign of green popping through you know it was worth the wait. There are many other hobbies that help you focus on patience, like fishing, writing and even cooking. Patience helps you remain in control and stay clear minded. When we allow our emotions to get the best of us we can hurt others and our own reputation.
Tip 4: Meditate. Focus on your breathing and push away any thoughts. Any thoughts that come in gently let it go from your mind and refocus on your breathing. This helps not only clear your mind but also recharges your body helping you feel more relaxed.
Tip 5: You all know this one, READ! This helps you stay informed and helps you expand your perspective. The more you grow as an individual the more you become self aware.
Tip 6: Watch less TV. I started to do this several months ago and it was the best thing I ever started. I am still working on cutting back even more so. TV is a wonderful distraction but also a deadly one. TV doesn’t require any brain power, in a way it shuts off your brain and absorbs a bunch of nonsense. By cutting off the noise you can focus on your own thoughts and bring forth your own opinions.
Tip 7:Journal everyday or as often as you can. This will help you zone in on your positive and negative thoughts. You will be able to see what thoughts dictate you and you will be able to make sense of them. This also helps you focus on what changes you want to make and keep track of your process.
Tip 8: Ask questions. If you don’t understand something that someone did or said then investigate. Don’t stay in the dark, you owe it to yourself to bring clarity and understanding to your life. This goes for yourself. Question yourself. Whenever you say or do something that you feel doesn’t align with who you want to be, then ask yourself some questions like, ‘why did I say that’ or ‘why did I do that?’ This can help bring forth some answers to help you understand yourself.
Tip 9: Spend more time alone. This helps you become more comfortable with yourself — the good and the bad. As you get to know yourself better, the more you will begin to love yourself, therefore spreading that love to others.
There is no need to pressure yourself with applying all of these tips in your life. Start with a couple and you will begin to see changes. It might be overwhelming to go through these changes but think of the growth you will be doing. You will begin to feel better and more in charge of your life. You will see the positive changes occurring and you will begin to feel more confident with yourself. When each of us focus on what we can change within we really are changing the world one person at a time.
Remember as you go through this no one ever said change and growth was comfortable. There will be instances where you feel like you are in new territory and you don’t know what you are doing, but this will pass as you keep on your journey.
Hold onto hope and anything is possible.
To end things, I have wonderful news! I uploaded my first YouTube Video last week! I will be posting it here in the next few days so you can all watch it. You can go ahead and look it up as well (click here) https://youtu.be/LzXdPYB8Hcg and subscribe to my channel. I might write a post about my process, so stay posted!
Until next time,