Recently, I took a trip down memory lane and I quickly realized just how much I have changed! I remember being a shy, timid girl who was angry at herself and her circumstances. I blamed everyone else for my problems. I was tired of who I was and just wanted my life to change. But, that’s the thing— so many of us want to change, but when the time for change arises, we hide from it and do nothing instead. All of a sudden excuses come out of nowhere. So, what’s the first step to transforming your life?
Step one! We need to desire change. Simply wanting, or wishing, for change just won’t cut it. You need to decide to change and cultivate a burning desire to make such change. Have you ever noticed that once a kid decides they want something, they will stop at nothing until they get what they want? It is the same for us! When we want to do something getting started is easy and implementing the next step is even easier. Of course the process probably won’t be easy. Remember, anything worthwhile takes a lot of work. As Theodore Roosevelt once said: “The greatest gift life has to offer is the opportunity to work hard at work worth doing.”
Once I desired change, I started to change. Next, I began to cultivate my personal aspirations. I asked myself: “Who am I and who do I want to be?” There was nothing wrong with who I was. I don’t know if you might relate, but I felt like I had many habits and limiting beliefs that were keeping me from utilizing my full potential. I was tired of putting myself down and I wanted to raise my self-esteem. Having an idea of how I wanted to view myself definitely helped me start doing the things I needed to do in order to reach that version of myself.
Then I started asking myself: “Who do I associate with? Who do I spend all of my time with?” The people you surround yourself with is so important because people, even those with the best intentions, can lower your energy or they can improve it for the better. We are social beings who are capable of influencing each other. It is important to pay attention to people’s energies, mental states, and emotional intelligence. Some people carry a lot of negativity on their shoulders and that does not make them bad people, but this means you need to decide whether or not you want this person in your close circle.When I am evaluating my friendships, I ask myself if my friends seem like they are open to change and self improvement. There might not be any positive changes happening anytime soon if they are constantly complaining and making excuses. Stepping away from people can be difficult, but hanging around with people who have positive energies and who support you is essential— especially if you see qualities in these people that you also want to emulate. Start building relationships with people who make you want to become better and they too will see the determination you have to further yourself.
What you watch, read and listen to are going to be big factors in improving yourself. Choose to consume media that inspires you to not give up. Sometimes we just want to turn on Netflix and binge watch every season of The Office or get caught up with other distractions, but make sure to work toward a good balance between entertainment and self improvement. Remember, our mindset will affect our perspective and our attitude, thus helping us make better decisions.
At this point, you might be thinking, “Evelyn, does my style affect my self-perception?” The answer is a resounding yes! Thinking about our personal styles is fun for me because I have a passion for fashion. 🙂 I truly believe shopping is cardio! You have probably heard the saying, dress for the job you want, not the job you have. The same idea applies to our personal identity because we have got to dress for the part. Imagine your ideal future style and go for it. Your style can help you feel confident. It’s a way to express yourself without speaking— your clothing often acts as a first impression when meeting new people. Don’t underestimate the power of clothing.
Lastly, have faith. Be patient and believe that with everything you are doing you will eventually see the results you are looking for. This may be the most difficult advice to implement because it requires you to believe in something you can’t physically see yet.
I hope when you start to put forth action in the areas of your life that you want to improve, you will begin to see the changes like I did.
Tell me a little about your aspirations in the comments below! Did this article inspire you to think about your lifestyle and habits in a different way? Are you thinking of making any changes? Let me know! Let’s talk about it.
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Until next time,