Besides having lost my focus for the blog and my passion for posting every week, I went through many changes in a short amount of time recently. My puppy (Rocky, about 8 months old) started to become very ill and it hurt us all to see him that way, not only emotionally, but financially as well. On top of that someone who was very close to me turned my entire perspective of who I thought they were upside down. I felt betrayed and lost trust in that person, which was a very difficult ordeal for me. Then, just about overnight, we moved from Fallbrook, CA to San Diego. This was by no means a planned move. One day it was decided that this just had to be done. In the midst of all this happening, I felt very overwhelmed, stressed, and like I had no control over the direction of my life. So, I decided to take a break from writing and blogging. I needed to regain my bearings and find what I wanted for me and my small family.
I found that I am truly blessed. My puppy started to become stronger, healthier, and happier. My relationship with my partner grew and we felt a sense of renewed peace with each other. I also grew; I realized I am able to handle what life throws at me if I approach things one step at a time. I learned that regardless of the situation I am in, things do not need to be conquered all at once. Everything can be broken down. I went back to my basics and listened to audios of people who have more knowledge, more experience, and more success than me. I began reading books that kept me positive and broadened my point of view and mindset.
So, allow yourself to roll with the changes. Don’t always try to control every situation. Sometimes you just have to let the choices you make take you where life needs you to go. Many people are afraid of making mistakes, and because of that fear, they end up holding themselves back. The only way to get through fear is by taking action. Which I know, is easier said than done. Action is the remedy we all need to move forward and face any fears or obstacles head on.
Here are three steps that can help you as they helped me face change in a healthy way.
- Take a step back and look at the situation from a different perspective. Try to make decisions when you are calm and not filled with fear or stress.
- When we fear change it is because we feel like we may not be making the right decision or we feel like we don’t have any control of the situation. So, a way to conquer this is by finding small ways to feel in control and ready to move forward. Some ways to do this might be: to research whatever situation you are going through, talk to someone and feel comforted to know that someone cares enough to listen, or do something that you are already good at– maybe cooking, cleaning, working out, and so on.
- Be patient: with yourself and the situation. We are all a bit resistant to change, but it is a normal process we all must go through. Allow yourself the time to accept what is happening, but also know change is not always a giant obstacle to overcome. Give yourself time but not too much time where you find yourself static because of fear.
Change is a recurring event. If we find ways that help us move through it better and faster we will be able to take better control of the situations presented to us. We will be able to move our life in the direction we want despite the circumstances around us.
Don’t let change be the reason for not achieving your dreams.
Remember, you are in control of how you view yourself, so let it be beautiful.
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Much love, Evelyn.