Confidence comes from within ourselves– Meaning, we create confidence and other people around us feel it. So often we think someone can make us feel confident, but that is not true. Other people can make us feel good about ourselves but they can’t give us something we don’t yet recognize in ourselves. There may be moments where we say or do something out of bravery, but that is often acted upon impulse. Confidence is feeling comfortable and secure in what you say or do. Bing defines confidence as feelings of self-assurance arising from one’s appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities. So, we must learn how to feel self-assured.
The people around us can teach us lessons and add value to who we are. They have contributed to your self- worth, but how often do you feel ignored, unfit or inferior around friends, family or other people? Do you blame them for feeling the way you do or do you decide to push your feelings aside and ignore them? Either way, this feeling of inferiority is not an emotion of how others are treating us, it is a feeling we are creating ourselves. Eleanor Roosevelt said it best, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
Feeling unfit is pretty much normal for everyone. At different points in our lives we’ve all felt inferior when we compare ourselves to others. Some of us go through our whole lives feeling ignored, but there are others who learn to overcome these emotions. Often, we feel this way because we are constantly comparing ourselves to other people. We decide they have a better life because they are more attractive or have nicer things– whatever the reason– we begin to feel disappointed and maybe a bit envious. What I have learned is to change our perspective of ourselves and appreciate who we are and what we have. When we feel happy within ourselves we won’t need to look towards other people for acceptance. We would be able to move forward and do the things we want in life because we feel worthy to feel great about ourselves.
When we add our self-worth and hard work together we will be able to accomplish all we want in our lives.
Edited by Samantha McDonald