As I have mentioned in previous posts, it is very common for us women to poke at our own flaws and find the imperfections faster than we look to find our natural beauty. We are constantly playing a compare and contrast game with the rest of the female population. Ultimately, it is not healthy for ourselves, or for our self-esteem. We have edges and corners which make us unique. Because of this uniqueness, we tend to respond to situations differently than other people, which allows us to see how we differ from others. I have a friend, who I recently spoke to, and she was telling me that many people notice how outgoing she is and she has acknowledged this trait as well. At the same time, she often has moments of shyness, which leads her to believe that she may not be as outgoing as people think. While we were talking, I realized that we are often too quick to categorize people in order to understand them for our benefit . The beauty of building relationships is not to just categorize people, but to keep learning about that person. Learning is never-ending. The people in your life are also facing challenges, obstacles, and different situations that are molding them into the person they are meant to be. We don’t just fit in a box. So, sometimes, we may surprise ourselves and others when we do or say something out of the ordinary. Acting out of your ordinary does not mean you are acting “wrong.” In fact, it could very well mean that you are simply showing different sides of your personality to the world.
It would make a world of difference if we just paused for a moment before talking, so that we may truly listen to someone as they speak. This act of pausing will not only improve your relationships, but it will also allow you to reflect on yourself.
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Edited by Samantha McDonald